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Psicologa Clinica Atendimento Online Andreiapsionline Why go to therapy? Allowing yourself to talk about the anguish is the first step towards internal changes that will guide you towards a path more true to yourself. leia mais Online psychological care for Brazilians living abroad Borderless online psychological support for Brazilians living abroad. Psychoanalytic care for Brazilians abroad and expatriates in Brazil ​ ​ Every expatriation experience is unique and moves countless potentialities with it. ​ Psychological support for expatriates was created not only to hear their journey in a foreign country, but to listen in a human way to all their history and desires that are intertwined with this move abroad. ​ sobre About me Me chamo Andreia de Miranda Hollenstein, sou brasileira, carioca e graduada em Psicologia pela Universidade Veiga de Almeida no RJ e pós-graduada em Psicologia Clínica. Desde a graduação meu campo de pesquisa e paixão é a Psicologia Intercultural. Hoje pratico a psicanálise como ferramenta de escuta teórico-clínica, agregando as contribuições da psicologia intercultural para ampliação da compreensão de expatriados. I'm Brazilian and Rio de Janeiro, graduated in Psychology from Universidade Veiga de Almeida in RJ and post-graduated in Clinical Psychology. ​​ SPID participant: Iracy Doyle Psychoanalytic Society. Member of the ICF - Freud Cultural Institute in RJ. Psychologist member of the Sakura Project - Psychological support to Brazilian expatriates residing in Japan. Psychologist at a German recruitment multinational based in Düsseldorf. Responsible for the psychological monitoring of Brazilian professionals in the process of expatriation to Germany - Integra Program. Online psychological care for adults in Portuguese, English and German. leia mais Psicanálise O que é a Psicologia Intercultural ? A psicologia intercultural surge dos estudos da relação de fatores psicológicos e cultura, contribuindo e ampliando a intervenção clínica e escuta do profissional de saúde mental com o intuito de considerar os fenômenos de ordem cultural que possam afetar a saúde psíquica do sujeito, sendo o foco do psicólogo intercultural: analisar a relação entre cultura e comportamento humanos, estar sensibilizado para as psicopatologias decorrentes da migração e questões culturais bem como assegurar o bem-estar social e psíquico do expatriado. ​ Os encontros e desencontros culturais colocam todo o sentido da vida em xeque daquele que se desloca, levando a renegociações de hábitos, condutas comportamentais e sobretudo desafiando o sujeito a se reinventar. Tudo isso pode ser resumido em uma palavra chamada: Aculturação. ​ ​ ​ ​ leia mais Doing analysis is looking for a meaning. It's going in search of a north in the midst of chaos and being able to choose to do something from it. Atenção : Este site não oferece tratamento ou aconselhamento imediato para pessoas em crise suicida. Em caso de crise, ligue para 188 (CVV) ou acesse o site www.cvv.org.br .

Para você: - Brasileiro (a) no exterior e expatriados de qualquer nacionalidade que residem no Brasil; - Suporte psicológico para mulheres co-expatriadas recém-chegadas no país estrangeiro; - Suporte psicológico para j ovens ingressando na vida adulta. For you: - Brazilians abroad and expatriates of any nationality living in Brazil; - Psychological support for co-expatriate women; - Psychological support for young adults entering adulthood.

proximo SER ESTRANGEIRO 28.03.2009 THE FOREIGN BEING ​ 28.03.2009 ​ The migratory process and the immersion in a culture foreign to ours can sometimes cause a feeling of loneliness, strangeness with the different, confusion and disorientation, feelings often of rejection and fear of being rejected. Foreigners often feel again like a child who needs to relearn everything, to speak and write a new language when necessary, to make new friends and learn to integrate into their new society, get used to new eating habits and deprive themselves even for others, getting used to the geography and climate of the new place; foreigners also need to understand the politics, economy, history and culture of their new home and, above all, understand the mentality and habits of the people who live there. The foreign being is also often accompanied by being regarded on numerous occasions as 'the stranger from a distant galaxy', and even being seen as 'exotic' but without feeling exotic, being suddenly considered to belong to an ethnic group that never before, he thought of belonging and sometimes being seen as a stereotyped figure of all the elements present in the imagination of those who cross his path. In addition to all this, being a foreigner always also implies respecting, understanding, revealing, learning and relearning, getting used to, being patient, giving in and all this in the search to feel accepted, this is, by the way, the the most natural need of the human being: the need to belong, to be part! As psychoanalytic studies have shown for a long time, the feeling of belonging is an intrinsic need, inherent to the human being, as we seek comfort, security and build our identity through the relationship and contact with another, that is, we are individual and relational beings at the same time. This hurricane of feelings forces us to be strong subjects and, on the other hand, totally vulnerable, but the reward is in the experience - pleasant or not to remember - make us wise and rich in feelings. I also learned over time not to confuse being a foreigner with being a foreigner. We must be careful not to fall into an eternal crystallization of labels that often hinder the individual potential of each one of us. Everyone has different fingerprints, as well as a preciously unique personality and character, so don't let others narrow them down. It is often necessary to put pride aside and be a shrewd observer when we are still apprentices of a culture different from ours, in practice it is necessary to know and be aware of their rights and duties, in the heart humility and the choice of happiness instead of vanity. There is no magic formula to avoid uncomfortable situations in your new home, however, what I advise - which has often helped me - is to be curious and attentive to every step and challenge of daily life, listen to criticism - and cheers! - and try to accept them even if it takes time. Being open to new friendships and people you can trust, this is essential to feel little by little integrated, and especially to face the daily difficulties with lightness and good humor. This can be a great and infallible remedy. ​ "Those who don't know foreign languages don't know anything about their own." Johann Wolfgang von Goethe Author: Andreia Hollenstein CRP: 05/36484 Clinical Psychologist & Psychoanalysis psicologia

Psicologia Intercultural voltar A Psicologia Intercultural enfatiza o estudo do indivíduo e os impactos no comportamento interpessoal e na saúde mental daqueles que se deslocam para fora de seu país de origem. Na prática clínica ela auxilia o profissional a ter uma escuta sensibilizada para as questões identitárias e sofrimentos psíquicos oriundos do choque cultural proveniente de uma mudança radical de meio cultural, que inclui idioma, hábitos alimentares, clima, religião, relações interpessoais, crenças e códigos de linguagem e conduta distintos dos que carregamos em nossa mala quando decidimos nos estabelecer em um país estrangeiro. Um outro grande fator de agravamento de sofrimento psíquico, e que infelizmente é um assunto em pauta cada vez mais iminente e atual, é quando o deslocamento em questão é involuntário, ou seja, quando o sujeito se vê forçado por questões de conflitos armados, guerras ou desastres ambientais a abandonar seu país de origem, nesses casos a Psicologia Intercultural é fundamental para o acolhimento e escuta de refugiados para intervenções de emergência, para que ofereça ao sujeito um suporte e favoreça condições psíquicas mínimas para lidar com o trauma inevitável do impacto do deslocamento forçado.

Politica de privacidade Seja bem-vindo(a)! Esta Política tem o objetivo de dar transparência ao uso dos dados pessoais e proteger a privacidade dos USUÁRIOS DESTE SITE. - Termos Gerais - ​ 1.1. Geral. Esta Política de Privacidade foi concebida para comunicar as nossas práticas relativas ao tratamento (inclui coleta, armazenamento, utilização, processamento e compartilhamento) de dados pessoais dos USUÁRIOS da DESTE SITE (doravante assim denominada ou somente “plataforma”), que engloba o website e seus subdomínios, aplicativos, programas e demais extensões. A plataforma é de propriedade de Andreia de Miranda Hollenstein, inscrita sobre o CPF: 101.457.737-36 1.2. O que são Dados Pessoais. Os dados pessoais são aqueles informados pelos USUÁRIOS, os quais podem ser usados para identificá-los individualmente. 1.3. O que são Dados Pessoais Sensíveis. Dados pessoais sensíveis são aqueles sobre a origem racial ou étnica, convicção religiosa, opinião política, filiação a sindicato ou a organização de caráter religioso, filosófico ou político, dado referente à saúde ou à vida sexual, dado genético ou biométrico, quando vinculado a uma pessoa natural. 1.4. Quem são os USUÁRIOS. Poderão se cadastrar na plataforma: a) Psicólogos: Profissionais devidamente registrados Conselho Regional de Psicologia (CRP) de sua região (integrante do Sistema Conselhos do Conselho Federal de Psicologia - CFP), com cadastro específico para prestação de serviços psicológicos por meio de tecnologias de informação e comunicação (TIC's) - e-Psi disponível através do link https://e-psi.cfp.org.br/cadastro-simplificado/encontrarRegistro ); b) Pacientes: Pessoas físicas que se cadastram na Plataforma para receber atendimento psicológico online; 1.5. Autorização de Coleta de Informações. Ao utilizar a plataforma, você deverá aceitar e autorizar a coleta de informações apenas para o cumprimento dos serviços ora contratados, através do botão “li e concordo com os termos”, nos termos da presente política de privacidade. 1.5.1.Você poderá desistir de consentir com as disposições desta Política de Privacidade, a qualquer momento, bastando para tal que notifique a DESTE SITE através do e-mail: psionline.intercultural@gmail.com • 1.6. Regulamentação. A plataforma atua de acordo com a legislação brasileira, atendendo, inclusive e especialmente, com os termos da Lei nº. 12.965/2014 (o Marco Civil da Internet) e da Lei nº 13.709/2018 (Lei Geral de Proteção de Dados), da Resolução CFP nº 11/2018 (Regulamenta a prestação de serviços psicológicos realizados por meios de tecnologias da informação e da comunicação), da Resolução CFP nº 4/2020 (Regulamenta os serviços psicológicos prestados por meio de tecnologia da informação e da comunicação durante a pandemia do COVID-19) e demais leis que venham a ser aplicadas. 1.7. Contato. Em caso de dúvida ou sugestões sobre a Política de Privacidade da plataforma ou qualquer outra informação, o USUÁRIO poderá entrar em contato com os administradores através do e-mail suporte@psicologiaviva.com.br , que será respondido em horário comercial, de segunda-feira a sexta-feira, das 9h às 18h. 1.8. Controle de Informações. Esta Política descreve quais os dados pessoais podem ser coletados dos USUÁRIOS, enquanto utilizam os serviços da plataforma, como essas informações podem ser utilizadas e as precauções tomadas contra o acesso ou uso destas informações de forma não autorizada. - DADOS PESSOAIS COLETADOS - ​ 2.1. Dados Cadastrais. A DESTE SITE poderá coletar, armazenar e utilizar as seguintes informações e/ou dados pessoais dos USUÁRIOS: 2.1.1. Psicólogos: a) Nome completo; b) Gênero; c) Data de nascimento; d) CPF; e) E-mail; f) Endereço; g) Telefone; h) Documento do CRP; i) Cadastro no e-Psi; j) Especialidade; k) Dados bancários; l) Foto; m) Log de acesso (IP, data e hora de acesso 2.1.2. Pacientes: a) Nome completo; b) Gênero; c) Data de nascimento; d) CPF; e) E-mail; f) Endereço; g) Telefone; h) Foto; i) Log de acesso (IP, data e hora). 2.2. Dados de Utilização. A DESTE SITE também poderá coletar, armazenar e utilizar dados pessoais classificados como ‘’dados de utilização’’: a) Registro em banco de dados de quaisquer arquivos ou informação carregados na DESTE SITE pelos titulares; b) Os detalhes de acesso à DESTE SITE e dos recursos que o titular acessou; c) Informações do dispositivo de acesso utilizado, incluindo, por exemplo, modelo do hardware, sistema operacional e versão, nomes e versões dos arquivos, idioma de preferência, identificador exclusivo do dispositivo, identificadores de publicidade, número de série, informações referentes ao movimento do dispositivo e informações de rede; d) Informações de registro do servidor que podem incluir informações como endereço IP do dispositivo. e) Mapeamento de cliques no navegador, dados de navegação, estatísticos, demográficos, entre outros. f) Mapeamento de cliques nos aplicativos e dados de navegação; g) Dados referentes ao acesso; h) Informações dos USUÁRIOS que tenham sido disponibilizadas durante a realização de teleatendimentos por meio da Plataforma, tais como, notas, arquivos compartilhados, mensagens enviadas no chat do atendimento, bem como o registro documental em forma de prontuário na Plataforma, nos termos do art. 5º, IV da Resolução CFP nº 001/2009. 2.3. Finalidade da Coleta de Dados. Os dados pessoais coletados pela DESTE SITE estão enquadrados nas seguintes finalidades e bases legais: DADO COLETADO: Nome, foto, CPF, CRP, endereço e dados biométricos FINALIDADE: Identificar o USUÁRIO; BASE LEGAL : @Consentimento (art. 7º, I) DADO COLETADO: E-mail FINALIDADE: Enviar agendamentos de atendimentos, lembretes de consultas e demais comunicações com o USUÁRIO (informativos, comunicações, etc.) BASE LEGAL: Consentimento (art. 7º, I) DADO COLETADO: Telefone FINALIDADE: Enviar lembretes de agendamentos de atendimentos ou para entrar em contato com o USUÁRIO quando necessário (suporte, orientação, comunicações relativas à operação da Plataforma, etc.) BASE LEGAL: Consentimento (art. 7º, I) DADO COLETADO: Registro Documental (Prontuário da Plataforma) FINALIDADE: Utilizados para fins de segurança, auditoria e eventual compartilhamento com o Paciente e/ou com o Conselho de Psicologia para orientação, fiscalização e serventia de prova idônea para instruir processo disciplinar. BASE LEGAL: Cumprimento de obrigação legal ou regulatória (art. 7º, II) Exercício regular de direitos em processo judicial, administrativo ou arbitral (art. 7º, VI) DADO COLETADO: Logs de Navegação FINALIDADE: Utilizados para fins de segurança e auditoria, compartilhamento com autoridades judiciais, administrativas ou governamentais competentes, sempre que houver requerimento, requisição ou ordem judicial BASE LEGAL: Cumprimento de obrigação legal ou regulatória (art. 7º, II) Exercício regular de direitos em processo judicial, administrativo ou arbitral (art. 7º, VI) 2.4. Coleta de Dados Biométricos. A DESTE SITE poderá utilizar ferramentas de reconhecimento facial para coletar dados biométricos a partir da face do USUÁRIO para fins de identificação e autenticação do USUÁRIO, de modo a prevenir fraudes e garantir um melhor nível de segurança para os USUÁRIOS da Plataforma. Neste sentido, o USUÁRIO consente expressamente com o tratamento de dados da sua face para identificação e autenticação de seu acesso à Plataforma, concedendo à DESTE SITE todas as licenças e autorizações necessárias para uso de sua imagem nos termos previstos nesta política. 2.5. Transferência de Informações. Além dos Dados Pessoais mencionados acima, no caso de atendimento psicológico por meio de convênio com planos de saúde, o paciente desde já autoriza o psicólogo a transferir informações clínicas que forem necessárias para a tomada de decisões que o afetem, de acordo com o art. 1º, “g” do Código de Ética Profissional do Psicólogo. 2.6. Identificação e Autenticação. A DESTE SITE poderá aplicar as validações de segurança que achar necessárias para registrar o USUÁRIO, autenticá-lo e identificá-lo, estando o USUÁRIO ciente de que a falha na identificação e autenticação quando solicitado pela DESTE SITE poderá impedir a utilização da conta pelo USUÁRIO. 2.7. Registro das Sessões de Telepsicologia. O conteúdo das sessões será registrado, organizado e mantido atualizado pelo Psicólogo em forma de registro documental eletrônico no prontuário disponível na Plataforma, o qual será preservado em sigilo conjuntamente pela DESTE SITE e pelo Psicólogo e poderá ser disponibilizado ao Paciente, bem como ao Conselho de Psicologia, quando/se solicitado, nos termos da Resolução CFP nº 001/2009. 2.8. Gravação das Sessões de Telepsicologia. Nenhuma sessão será gravada ou armazenada sem prévia e expressa autorização das Partes. - COMPARTILHAMENTO DOS DADOS PESSOAIS COLETADOS - ​ 3.1. Exceções para Compartilhamento de Dados Pessoais. Os dados pessoais dos Pacientes são recebidos somente pelo Psicólogo. A DESTE SITE não divulga a terceiros qualquer dado pessoal fornecido pelos USUÁRIOS, através da plataforma DESTE SITE, exceto: a) Casos em que a DESTE SITE for obrigada a divulgar ou partilhar os dados coletados, a fim de cumprir ordem judicial, ou para efeitos de prevenção de fraude ou outros crimes, bem como em resposta à solicitação de informações apresentada por autoridade competente, se entendermos que a divulgação está de acordo ou é exigida conforme as leis, regulamentos ou procedimentos processuais aplicáveis; b) Para proteger os direitos, bens ou a segurança da DESTE SITE e da plataforma; c) Com autoridades públicas e órgãos de controle, se entender que suas ações são inconsistentes em relação às disposições em nossos termos de uso, ou para proteger os direitos, a propriedade ou a segurança da DESTE SITE, de seus USUÁRIOS, ou de outros; d) Mediante ação própria do USUÁRIO; e) Nos casos de venda, parcial ou total, do negócio ou de seus ativos, ou como parte de qualquer reorganização ou reestruturação do negócio, fusão, cisão ou incorporação, de modo que a DESTE SITE poderá compartilhar as informações dos USUÁRIOS com terceiros que façam parte dos respectivos negócios, tomando as medidas necessárias para garantir que os direitos de privacidade continuem a ser protegidos, conforme esta Política; f) Se, mediante autorização prévia, você concordar com o compartilhamento com empresas do Grupo Conexa (CONEXA SAÚDE e IMEDICINA) para o atendimento das finalidades estabelecidas nesta Política de Privacidade e continuidade no cuidado integrado de saúde. 3.2. 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Os USUÁRIOS têm direitos em relação aos dados pessoais sob posse da DESTE SITE, os quais poderão ser exercidos por meio de contato aos administradores da empresa através do e-mail psionline.intercultural@gmail.com , que será respondido em horário comercial, de segunda-feira a sexta-feira, das 9h às 18h, e poderá ser enviado por e-mail ou através de carta, de acordo com o previsto no artigo 9º e artigo 19, inciso II, da LGPD, de modo a assegurar os seguintes direitos: a) Direito de confirmação da existência de tratamento - Direito de solicitar a confirmação da existência de tratamento aos seus dados pessoais através de informações claras sobre a origem dos dados, a inexistência de registro, os critérios utilizados e a finalidade do tratamento; b) Direito de acesso - direito de ser informado e solicitar acesso aos dados pessoais tratados pela DESTE SITE; c) Direito de retificação - direito de solicitar que a DESTE SITE altere ou atualize os seus dados pessoais quando os mesmos estiverem incorretos ou incompletos; d) Direito de exclusão - direito de solicitar a eliminação de seus dados pessoais coletados pela DESTE SITE; e) Direito de restrição - direito de solicitar que a DESTE SITE deixe, temporária ou permanentemente, de processar todos ou alguns dos seus dados pessoais; f) Direito de oposição – direito de se opor, a qualquer momento, (i) ao processamento de seus dados pessoais por motivos relacionados à sua situação particular e (ii) à manipulação dos seus dados pessoais para fins de marketing direto; g) Direito à portabilidade de dados - direito de solicitar uma cópia dos seus dados pessoais em formato eletrônico e/ou transmitir os referidos dados pessoais para utilização no serviço de terceiros; h) Direito a não se submeter a decisões automatizadas - direito de não se submeter a decisões tomadas de forma unicamente automatizada, incluindo no que diz respeito à definição de perfis, caso a decisão exerça efeito jurídico sobre você ou produza um efeito igualmente significativo. '' 5.2. Exceção à Solicitação de Exclusão. O USUÁRIO tem direito de solicitar a exclusão dos seus dados pessoais armazenados na DESTE SITE, a qualquer momento, salvo nos casos em que houver obrigação legal ou regulatória, bem como decisão judicial para a manutenção do armazenamento dos dados, de acordo com o disposto nos artigos 18, XVI, e 16 da LGPD. 5.3. Incorreção de Informações. É responsabilidade do titular manter suas informações atualizadas, sendo certo que, no caso de incorreção, a DESTE SITE poderá atualizá-las, excetuando-se os casos de necessidade de manutenção para fins comerciais legítimos ou jurídicos, de forma anonimizada. 5.4. Medidas Necessárias de Proteção. A DESTE SITE toma as medidas de segurança da informação necessárias para proteger os dados pessoais dos USUÁRIOS e para protegê-los contra a perda, utilização indevida, acesso, divulgação, alteração ou destruição não autorizados. 5.5. Proteção de Senhas. Os USUÁRIOS são igualmente responsáveis por tomar medidas cabíveis destinadas a proteger as suas senhas, nomes de usuário e outros recursos de acesso especiais ao cadastro pessoal na DESTE SITE. - NOTIFICAÇÃO DE MODIFICAÇÕES NA POLÍTICA DE PRIVACIDADE - ​ 6.1. Alterações na Política de Privacidade. A DESTE SITE pode alterar a Política de Privacidade da plataforma periodicamente. O uso de informações coletadas agora está sujeito à Política de Privacidade em vigor. Se a DESTE SITE realizar mudanças na forma como utiliza os dados pessoais, notificará os USUÁRIOS através do envio de e-mail. 6.2. Ajustes Não Notificados. Pequenos ajustes nesta Política de Privacidade podem ocorrer sem afetar significativamente as formas em que a DESTE SITE trata as informações coletadas, de forma que estes não precisarão ser informados. ​ - COMUNICAÇÃO - ​ 7.1. Envio de Comunicações. Os USUÁRIOS, ao se cadastrarem, concordam que a DESTE SITE envie para o seu e-mail notificações sobre os serviços e informações importantes sobre a utilização da plataforma que necessitem da sua atenção. 7.2. Mensagens Publicitárias. O USUÁRIO poderá receber mensagens publicitárias em seu e-mail caso tenha consentido para a utilização de seus dados com essa finalidade. 7.3. Opção por Não Recebimento. Ao receber um e-mail em nome da plataforma, haverá a possibilidade de optar por não mais recebê-los, utilizando da opção opt-out ou através de solicitação por e-mail. 7.4. Política AntiSpam. A plataforma toma os cuidados necessários para evitar o envio não solicitado de e-mails. 7.5. Confidencialidade. É assegurado o máximo de confidencialidade no tratamento da lista de telefones e e-mails durante as tarefas regulares de administração da DESTE SITE. - SEGURANÇA DA INFORMAÇÃO E USO DE DADOS PESSOAIS - ​ 8.1. Armazenamento. Os dados pessoais de sua conta e todas as informações da plataforma são armazenados e trafegam de forma segura, sendo que apenas os colaboradores autorizados pela DESTE SITE podem ter acesso às suas informações pessoais, estando obrigatoriamente sujeitos aos deveres de confidencialidade e rigoroso respeito à sua privacidade nos termos desta Política. 8.2. Segurança da Informação. Todas as transações da DESTE SITE são criptografadas, sujeitas a backup de dados, ferramentas de monitoramento, políticas de segurança, controles de acesso para colaboradores, com softwares de segurança atualizados. 8.3. Transferência Internacional de Dados. Os dados pessoais armazenados pela DESTE SITE estão sujeitos às regras para transferência internacional de dados estabelecidas pelo art. 33 da Lei Geral de Proteção de Dados e deve ser realizada apenas para países que proporcionem proteção semelhante à existente no Brasil. 8.4. Notificação. Se a DESTE SITE tomar conhecimento de qualquer violação à segurança própria ou a empresas que hospedam os bancos de dados da plataforma, incluindo invasões, vazamentos de dados ou qualquer outro incidente de segurança da informação, iremos notificar a Autoridade Nacional de Proteção de Dados (ANPD), os USUÁRIOS eventualmente afetados, acerca dessa violação e iremos fornecer o máximo de detalhes referente à natureza, extensão da violação e os dados comprometidos, em prazo razoável, de acordo com o disposto nos artigos 48, § 1º, da LGPD. 8.5. Prazo de Armazenamento. A DESTE SITE armazenará os dados dos USUÁRIOS durante todo o período em que o cadastro do USUÁRIO estiver ativo e, após esse período, por no mínimo 5 anos, conforme as Resoluções CFP nº 01/2009 e nº 06/2019. 8.6. Encarregado de Proteção de Dados. Fica definido que Leandro Dionízio Ramos será o Encarregado de Proteção de Dados da DESTE SITE e poderá ser contatado através do e-mail psionline.intercultural@gmail.com . - DISPOSIÇÕES GERAIS - 9.1. Responsabilidade do Usuário. Os USUÁRIOS serão responsáveis por indenizar a DESTE SITE por todos os custos e danos que esta possa incorrer, como resultado da violação desta Política de Privacidade por si provocados. 9.2. Cooperação com Autoridades. A DESTE SITE coopera plenamente com quaisquer autoridades ou tribunais que venham a solicitar a divulgação da identidade ou localização de qualquer pessoa que tenha inserido qualquer material na plataforma que violem as cláusulas dispostas nesta Política. 9.3. Limitação de Responsabilidade. Esta Política de Privacidade aborda apenas o uso e divulgação de dados coletados pela plataforma da DESTE SITE. Se os USUÁRIOS divulgarem suas informações a websites de terceiros, regras diferentes podem ser aplicadas à utilização das suas informações. Atualizada em 24 de Abril de 2023.

voltar About me My name is Andreia de Miranda Hollenstein, I'm Brazilian, Rio de Janeiro and graduated in Psychology in 2007 from Universidade Veiga de Almeida in RJ, I have a postgraduate degree in Clinical Psychology. ​ - 2008 to 2012: Berlin, Germany. Psychological clinical care for Brazilians residing in Germany with permission to practice psychotherapy - Heilpraktiker. Columnist for the BnA - Brazilians in Germany website that addressed issues on immigration, psychology, culture and the feminine. ​ - 2013 to 2015: Volunteer psychologist at the Brazilian Red Cross in the department FESPsi - Special Force for Psychological Support in Disasters and coordinator of the department of psychological care for refugees in Rio de Janeiro. Private psychological clinical care. ​ - Currently: Member of the ICF - Freud Cultural Institute. SPID participant: Iracy Doyle Psychoanalytic Society. Columnist for Statto Magazine and Superela Site. Psychologist who is part of the Sakura Project - Psychological assistance to the Brazilian community residing in Japan. Partner psychologist at a German recruitment multinational based in Düsseldorf. Responsible for the psychological support of Brazilian professionals in the process of expatriation to Germany. Psychoanalytical assistance for adults in person in Rio de Janeiro and online.

proximo What is the value of your mental health? 11.10.2020 We work, study, produce non-stop, interact, marry, raise children, accumulate some assets, go through a pandemic, economic, family and existential crises. We get tired, move on and keep producing. ​ We tend not to pay attention to our anxieties and our most genuine questions for fear of getting in touch with them and not going back to being who we need to be in the world, nor offering what is expected of us in the infinite wheel of fulfilling tasks and obligations. The problem is that when we silence anguish and try hard to digest the indigestible, some symptoms appear and persist until we are willing to give ourselves a chance. ​ Depression, panic, insomnia, unexplained pain that persist, recurring nightmares, addictions, aggressiveness, melancholy, extreme anxiety, dropouts, insecurity, seclusion, broken relationships, discouragement to live life, just the life we struggled so hard to build. Everything that bothers us and is not welcome we sweep under the rug of the unconscious and the more we try to hide, guess what? More will dare to appear. The voice of the unconscious is subtle, but it does not stop until it is heard, as Sigmund Freud used to say. Trying to silence the symptoms that insistently manifest themselves with medication alone is like trying to extinguish an erupting hurricane with buckets of water. Leaving psychic suffering under anesthesia does not work in the long term, especially in the current pandemic moment in which we live, where old unresolved issues, impossible to continue to be suffocated and accepted as if they were not there, have drastically emerged. The pandemic made the suffering more acute and with it brought us the emergence of solving some puzzles in our lives. In the clinic, we psychologists, we observe all these complaints described here above, we observe the torment, the anguish, the fear of launching ourselves in front of the new and the unknown, the tiredness of oneself and the impotence of being, of doing differently. ​ But we still notice the disbelief and skepticism of some about the treatment of psychic pain through the word. Not to mention the old and outdated stigmas associating psychotherapeutic treatment with madness or exclusive only to class AA; not to mention the cruel self-imposition of enduring, suffering in silence and having to smile when you want to scream, such paradigms - crystallized in some - comfortably favor those who wish to be immersed in their symptoms, outsourcing the blame for their own stumbling blocks, thus remaining conveniently inert to any spark of change. Quite often, we psi professionals are asked whether just “sitting and talking” works. It takes too long? Is expensive? ​ The therapeutic process does involve financial and time investment, but above all psychic investment, persistence and courage to listen. Valuing Psychology and the work of the psychologist or psychoanalyst who is permanently dedicated to the studies of the human psyche is also valuing life and a chance for transformation. ​ Research has already shown that for years after the end of psychotherapy, as well as the psychoanalytic treatment founded by Freud, that its positive effects extend and reverberate in the reduction of hospitalizations and very high expenses with medications, as well as the reduction of sick leave, reflecting positively not only within companies but also unburdening the public health system. In our society, value is given above all to frivolous and ephemeral objects, likes, number of followers, filters and fame, time, energy and large sums of money are invested in disposable items and strategies that make us look like someone we are not. I will not go into the merits of whether the individual can effectively or not financially bear the costs of continued psychotherapeutic treatment, however I would like to leave the reflection on what value we are giving to our own mental health and what moves us more deeply while we often disinvest in discovering the most legitimate encounter we could afford, that with our own uniqueness. ​ Is therapy expensive? It depends. Dear is the broken marriage, dear is the child who no longer speaks to you or the unresolved relationship with your mother. Expensive is repeating patterns of hurtful relationships and not realizing it. Face is the anguish of realizing that you are in a place in life that you don't belong to and don't want to be. Expensive is the waste of potential and a life without goals. Expensive is wanting to go further, but not having the courage to get up. ​ ​ Author: Andreia Hollenstein CRP: 05/36484 Clinical Psychologist & Psychoanalysis References: Berghout, C., Zevalkink, J., & Hakkaart-van Roijen, L. (2010). The cost-utility analysis of psychoanalysis versus psychoanalytic psychotherapy. International Journal of Technology Assessment in Health Care, 26(1), 3-10. doi:10.1017/S0266462309990791

proximo Abuso Psicológico 20.06.2018 Psychological Abuse ​ 06.20.2018 ​ Contrary to popular belief, violence against women does not only manifest itself in the form of physical violence, but it can also manifest itself as insults, restriction of freedom and recurrent humiliation. Psychological violence is silent and takes place in the intimacy of the couple's life or even between relatives. Psychological abuse is also known as Gaslighting, the term comes from 1938, from the play Gas Light that inspired the movie À Meia Luz, in which the husband tries to drive his wife crazy by manipulating the house lights (which used to run on gas) and then denying that the light has been altered when your wife contradicts you. When we talk about psychological violence, it is normal that it is surprising when we elucidate that it can cause as much or more trauma and damage to the victim's emotional state as physical violence and even torture, as has been shown in many studies. Yes, people who are victims of psychological abuse may be more susceptible to depression, drug addiction, alcoholism, suicide, sleep and eating disorders, in addition to the somatization of illnesses. As self-esteem is undermined, the victim closes off, ends up losing social ties and becomes increasingly isolated, which makes all of this more dangerous because in addition to the victim weakening and not being able to verbalize a request for help, she loses few external references of what it is like to be in a healthy relationship. How do I identify that I am suffering psychological abuse? Does your partner constantly humiliate you using lewd insults, ironies and insults with the purpose of belittling you? He apologizes but does it all over again, doesn't seem to have any self-criticism? He does not empathize with the feelings of others, nor does he express genuine emotions towards others. He is an extremely controlling and calculating person, only the law he establishes is valid and his “principles” are fragile and questionable. He is manipulative, at the beginning of the relationship he was an apparently considerate partner, but after a while he began to impose his will to the detriment of his freedom. When you get hurt by something he's done, he accuses you of being "hyper-sensitive, fresh or spoiled" and his most frequent statement is "that's in your head, you're crazy, out of control, I didn't do any of that, yeah you who imagine things”. He has an explosive and fickle temper and blames you for getting nervous or having him mad. The aggressor's goal is always to leave the victim insecure and cornered; psychological violence often precedes physical violence, if the victim always backs off, the aggressor will always repeat the behavior, thus turning an endless circle of humiliation and verbal aggression that penetrates deeper like an arrow in the already weakened prey. The abuser causes the victim to begin to doubt his sanity and question his worth as a person. It is worth remembering that psychological violence can manifest itself in all social classes and cultures, but unfortunately it is still very chronic and present in macho cultures, which have a patriarchal historical heritage. These are just some of the many characteristics that an abusive relationship can have, if you have identified them in your routine, seek help, talk to someone you trust, look for ways to get stronger and put an end to a relationship that has these features is toxic. Love is a vital ingredient, yes, but without mutual respect and trust the foundations of a relationship cannot be sustained. Love cannot and should not be used as a justification for practicing or accepting abusive and degrading behavior. Those who truly want to be well with their better half, are concerned about not hurting, know how to ask for forgiveness and exchange affection. Trying to change the aggressor's behavior is a frequent misconception of the victim immersed in a hopeful fiction that one day – as a proof of love – he will transform. Imperfections and setbacks in the relationship are part of the challenges of living together, not violence. The reality of many families will only change through clarification; the more people are aware of this issue, the more the victims will be more likely to recognize that they are in fact victims and thus look for a way out. If you've read this text and remembered someone close to you who might be going through this, talk to that person, offer support. The Call Center for Women in Situations of Violence - Call 180 ​ ​ Author: Andreia Hollenstein CRP: 05/36484 Clinical Psychologist & Psychoanalysis

proximo SABER OUVIR 16.09.2011 KNOW HEAR ​ 16.09.2011 Nowadays we are dredged up by the speed of information, by the demand to produce, make and be constantly updated and informed about everything. Our routine has become robotic. Our words, increasingly empty of emotion. Our feelings, affections and pains are buffered by the daily tasks, which must at all costs be performed with ultra perfection and to the maximum of our performance. What has the actual act of relating turned into? Where did the patience and real willingness to listen to the other go? A calm dialogue with a person where there is mutual understanding becomes increasingly scarce. When was the last time you talked to someone and that instead of competition between the lines - dispute for the title of the best argument - there was synchronicity and reciprocal interests? Much admired is the gift of speech of those who are well articulate, innate communicative cults who do not get lost either in their thoughts or in their words when they speak. But many forget that listening is also an art. Listening does not mean just listening or simply being in the body when the other is speaking. Knowing how to listen means considering, it means for a moment just trying to get out of your own skin in order to try to feel what the other feels and wants to communicate, and thus try to embrace the experience or anguish of others without judgment. Why are cases of depression in all age groups and increasingly lonely people on the rise? Why are suicide and divorce rates in large cities rising out of control? Think about that person you love, that friend you love so much, do you really listen to him? We often notice a sign of sadness or concern marking the faces of these people in our closest relationship, but are we really willing to listen to what the other person has to say about their pain? Why do we always take the time to criticize and judge but not to listen? To help those who love it, it is not always necessary to have the best repertoire of words and interpretations about the problem exposed by the other, often it is enough to listen with affection, simply to understand. Sometimes a simple attempt at understanding expresses the companionship and support that sufferers so need. Who has never had that feeling of trying to explain something to someone and this person interrupts you right in the middle of the flow of your emotions and thoughts with floods of your own opinions that do not make any sense with your theme? This behavior, in addition to not helping, gets in the way, forcing the subject to swallow the rest of his sentence and, consequently, his feelings that were ready to be put out and worked on. As bad as swallowing back what was about to come out is having to digest it all over again, this time feeling more alone. Who hasn't heard from someone (or who hasn't!) a resounding: "yes yes, I already know what you're going to say...I know you!" This type of phrase carries the meaning of giving up the other, removing the possibility of the other to become something new and evolve, leaving no room for change and new expressions of becoming. While silence is frightening and uncomfortable for many, we often shy away from communicating not only out of fear of conflict, but also because we rarely feel that there is anyone really willing to listen. Relationships end and people move away because there is no listening or mutual acceptance, but successive criticisms and framing of the other in extremely narrow molds that are almost always corresponding to the very psychic limitations of those who do. This trampling of words, characterizing the lack of availability to listen, plasters the other in a place where he may no longer belong, the other is disappointed and not feeling welcomed and understood, moves away. The action of exercising a healthy listening that I propose here on a day-to-day basis between family members and friends or close people is something that is not home therapy, but it can have a beneficial therapeutic effect on those who, at a given moment in their life, need to be involved in a network of protection and help, after all, all of us, under some circumstances, have found ourselves in moments of vulnerability and confusion. The benefits of the exercise of listening are evident, these are the improvement of relationships in general, reducing misunderstandings in communication, because only through accurate listening can we see the real perspective of the other and consequently place ourselves in a more appropriate and fair way in the situation in question; but there is no way to reap good fruit in a garden where there has not been a good sowing, that is, listening is an exercise that must be practiced. Pride, another factor that hinders listening, always throws the other at the level of the defective, inappropriate, complex, after all, the proud subject feels infallible, behaving like an armored tank that tactlessly passes over everything and everyone . For this individual who protects his insecurities with this shield called pride, having to listen is like torture, because listening means changing, granting, revealing, learning something new and giving yourself away. It is a sign of strength whoever exposes his weaknesses and knows how to ask for help, cowardly is the one who trivializes, criticizes or represses the other's attempt to get closer. When we donate ourselves to truly listen to the other, we are contributing to reduce the discredit of others, the distance between people and the distrust so pervaded in our society traumatized by wars, violence and increasingly extreme individualism. When we listen to the other we are not losing, on the contrary, we are gaining experience and wisdom, whoever listens more learns more and a lot! By listening, we learn to relate to health and thus practice something that will actually bring us happiness: the pleasure of exchange, generosity and doing good. When was the last time you actually listened to someone? "I don't try to know the answers, I try to understand the questions." Confucius or Kung-Fu-Tze - Chinese Philosopher Author: Andreia Hollenstein CRP: 05/36484 Clinical Psychologist & Psychoanalysis

psicologia proximo MULHER, INDEPENDÊNCIA E BEM-ESTAR 12.02.2010 WOMAN, INDEPENDENCE AND WELL-BEING ​ 02.12.2010 Excitement, passion and emotion that first glimpse what new perspectives offer, but what happens to the feelings after this magical phase? Normally the adaptation process in a culture different from ours can be seen as a "U", the first point from above is the euphoria of the new that then goes down reaching the curve below, this would represent the moments of doubt, disillusionment, loneliness and even giving up, going up again to the other end, which would already be the most stable phase of adaptation, where we can already recognize ourselves in the stranger and walk alone. I would like to draw attention here to the professional issue of women who migrate and to how important having a professional career is for their autonomy, identity and well-being wherever they are. In our society, we define ourselves not only, but largely through our profession, which, in addition to locating and identifying us socially, brings us a feeling of being in the world, contributing something to someone and especially being full, occupying ourselves and being completing by exercising the chosen activity. Our work and the responsibility we take for it, also brings the desire to improve, do well, learn more and consequently expand and evolve as a person. The woman who migrates is, for a number of reasons, more subject to withdrawal from her professional life, the time it takes to be fluent in a foreign language, non-recognition of diplomas abroad and often even the lack of support from her partner, even reaching to a subtle restraint, they are just a few reasons that end up undermining her self-confidence and making the woman postpone for a date that she does not know the beginning or the restart of her career abroad. If we look to the past, we can see that Brazilian culture has always taught that women had to obey and sacrifice themselves for the other. Always placed in the background, we can see this in the course of Brazilian history, an example is the institution of the female vote that came decades later in Brazil than in the rest of the world, as well as its access to universities and, consequently, its emancipation. Not to mention that the role of women in colonial Brazil was restricted to the organization of the home and procreation, the appropriate woman was the one with attributes such as ingenuity, purity and subordination, she was seen as an object for sex, but without sexuality. Unintentionally and due to certain difficult circumstances that can only be momentary, we women end up reproducing some remnants of our history, putting us in a place that hasn't belonged to us for a long time. Subjugating yourself in all degrees and clothes is not healthy, on the contrary, it is a cut of creativity, talents and the essence of the feminine and the human, we must fearlessly show ourselves entirely who we are, as a woman as well as a person with dreams, anxieties, fears, doubts, strengths and weaknesses. Being clear about what you really want to do and persisting in your individual purposes works as a great guide not to submit to sad situations that, in fact, in many cases it is not necessary to submit. The exercise of self-reflection and self-questioning allows us to look at ourselves, to investigate what we want and what makes us genuinely happy and then tread the path with more confidence and less deviations and distractions, never giving up on who we really are and what we are capable of. "As a woman I don't have a country. As a woman, my country is the whole world." Virginia Wolf ​ Author: Andreia Hollenstein CRP: 05/36484 Clinical Psychologist & Psychoanalysis

proximo PSICOLOGIA INTERCULTURAL: UMA FERRAMENTA PARA AJUDAR A QUEM MIGRA. 14.07.2012 INTERCULTURAL PSYCHOLOGY: A TOOL TO HELP MIGRATES. ​ 07.14.2012 We live in a time when people from the most diverse cultures and nationalities intertwine across the globe. Due to the facilities brought by means of communication, technology and transport, the world became more interconnected and borders increasingly elastic. Moving geographically is easy. Virtually or in person, we can very quickly be exposed to cultures that are extremely different from our own. ​ People who, for various reasons, decide to adopt a new country to live in are the ones who are most subject to the impact of the cultural shock that triggers important changes in their relationships, affections, in the perception of themselves and the environment in which they live. A new language to learn, different ways of relating, homesickness, loneliness, separation, starting from scratch, and their homeland seen through different eyes are just some of the feelings that immigrants experience in their daily lives. ​ Intercultural psychology emerges both as a focus of research and clinical intervention in order to observe cultural phenomena that may affect the subject's psychic health, being the focus of the intercultural psychologist: to analyze the relationship between culture and human behavior, being sensitized to the psychopathologies arising from migration and cultural issues as well as ensuring the social and psychological well-being of the expatriate. ​ Below are some of the main complaints presented by migrants in clinical practice: ​ Culture shock: Amazement and even disappointment with new elements found in the receiving culture, difficulty in understanding different habits and attitudes. Culture shock can serve both as a great tool for interesting discoveries and can arouse denial and avoidance of contact with the new. Acculturative stress: It is shown as an overload of tasks that the subject is required to learn about the culture that welcomes him, generating emotional stress over time. Pain of separation from family members. Frustration: Not always everything goes as planned and for this reason a series of questions are generated regarding the decision to change the country itself and about perspectives for the future. In these cases, there may even be a phase of stagnation – for a short or long period of time – in daily activities. Shock by the change of social position: the subject's social status often declines in his new country. Until he becomes established in his profession, he temporarily leaves for other types of employment that he would not do in his homeland. This move can profoundly affect your self-esteem. Anxiety: It can arise when dealing with losses, separations, financial stressors, discrimination, etc. The most common symptoms are sleep disturbances, confusion in organizing daily tasks, impatience, difficulty in setting priorities and in interpersonal relationships. All of the above items can generate depressive symptoms - the most frequent complaint in this type of clinic - which are added to the experience of seeing oneself only in a foreign country, as well as the difficulty of entering a group and making bonds of friendship. The individual increasingly avoids putting himself in situations that demand a lot of energy, he is afraid of not being understood and of failing. In this way, motivations flatten and everyday life becomes stagnant. It is also interesting to know that the appearance of the problems described above can vary a lot for each person. An individual with high self-confidence will undoubtedly go over certain obstacles much more easily than someone who already carries some emotional vulnerability. Seeking therapeutic guidance as soon as possible, when you run into some obstacles, often inherent to the path, helps a lot to organize feelings that are often still confused and muffled that need to be worked through. Delaying the search for help only adds to the anguish. ​ Doing a previous study of the country you are going to helps a lot. Reading about their peculiarities, talking to natives, having contacts, among other small actions, reassures those who are leaving and can make the change much easier. However, one of the most precious tips for those who migrate is to know yourself and be aware of your plans and concrete reasons why you will be leaving your land. Set your goals well, always keeping in mind those that make real sense to your life and that contribute to your own personal fulfillment. ​ Author: Andreia Hollenstein CRP: 05/36484 Clinical Psychologist & Psychoanalysis

proximo PSICANÁLISE - UM CONVITE À REINVENÇÃO 01.11.2021 KNOW HEAR ​ 16.09.2011 Nowadays we are dredged up by the speed of information, by the demand to produce, make and be constantly updated and informed about everything. Our routine has become robotic. Our words, increasingly empty of emotion. Our feelings, affections and pains are buffered by the daily tasks, which must at all costs be performed with ultra perfection and to the maximum of our performance. What has the actual act of relating turned into? Where did the patience and real willingness to listen to the other go? A calm dialogue with a person where there is mutual understanding becomes increasingly scarce. When was the last time you talked to someone and that instead of competition between the lines - dispute for the title of the best argument - there was synchronicity and reciprocal interests? Much admired is the gift of speech of those who are well articulate, innate communicative cults who do not get lost either in their thoughts or in their words when they speak. But many forget that listening is also an art. Listening does not mean just listening or simply being in the body when the other is speaking. Knowing how to listen means considering, it means for a moment just trying to get out of your own skin in order to try to feel what the other feels and wants to communicate, and thus try to embrace the experience or anguish of others without judgment. Why are cases of depression in all age groups and increasingly lonely people on the rise? Why are suicide and divorce rates in large cities rising out of control? Think about that person you love, that friend you love so much, do you really listen to him? We often notice a sign of sadness or concern marking the faces of these people in our closest relationship, but are we really willing to listen to what the other person has to say about their pain? Why do we always take the time to criticize and judge but not to listen? To help those who love it, it is not always necessary to have the best repertoire of words and interpretations about the problem exposed by the other, often it is enough to listen with affection, simply to understand. Sometimes a simple attempt at understanding expresses the companionship and support that sufferers so need. Who has never had that feeling of trying to explain something to someone and this person interrupts you right in the middle of the flow of your emotions and thoughts with floods of your own opinions that do not make any sense with your theme? This behavior, in addition to not helping, gets in the way, forcing the subject to swallow the rest of his sentence and, consequently, his feelings that were ready to be put out and worked on. As bad as swallowing back what was about to come out is having to digest it all over again, this time feeling more alone. Who hasn't heard from someone (or who hasn't!) a resounding: "yes yes, I already know what you're going to say...I know you!" This type of phrase carries the meaning of giving up the other, removing the possibility of the other to become something new and evolve, leaving no room for change and new expressions of becoming. While silence is frightening and uncomfortable for many, we often shy away from communicating not only out of fear of conflict, but also because we rarely feel that there is anyone really willing to listen. Relationships end and people move away because there is no listening or mutual acceptance, but successive criticisms and framing of the other in extremely narrow molds that are almost always corresponding to the very psychic limitations of those who do. This trampling of words, characterizing the lack of availability to listen, plasters the other in a place where he may no longer belong, the other is disappointed and not feeling welcomed and understood, moves away. The action of exercising a healthy listening that I propose here on a day-to-day basis between family members and friends or close people is something that is not home therapy, but it can have a beneficial therapeutic effect on those who, at a given moment in their life, need to be involved in a network of protection and help, after all, all of us, under some circumstances, have found ourselves in moments of vulnerability and confusion. The benefits of the exercise of listening are evident, these are the improvement of relationships in general, reducing misunderstandings in communication, because only through accurate listening can we see the real perspective of the other and consequently place ourselves in a more appropriate and fair way in the situation in question; but there is no way to reap good fruit in a garden where there has not been a good sowing, that is, listening is an exercise that must be practiced. Pride, another factor that hinders listening, always throws the other at the level of the defective, inappropriate, complex, after all, the proud subject feels infallible, behaving like an armored tank that tactlessly passes over everything and everyone . For this individual who protects his insecurities with this shield called pride, having to listen is like torture, because listening means changing, granting, revealing, learning something new and giving yourself away. It is a sign of strength whoever exposes his weaknesses and knows how to ask for help, cowardly is the one who trivializes, criticizes or represses the other's attempt to get closer. When we donate ourselves to truly listen to the other, we are contributing to reduce the discredit of others, the distance between people and the distrust so pervaded in our society traumatized by wars, violence and increasingly extreme individualism. When we listen to the other we are not losing, on the contrary, we are gaining experience and wisdom, whoever listens more learns more and a lot! By listening, we learn to relate to health and thus practice something that will actually bring us happiness: the pleasure of exchange, generosity and doing good. When was the last time you actually listened to someone? "I don't try to know the answers, I try to understand the questions." Confucius or Kung-Fu-Tze - Chinese Philosopher Author: Andreia Hollenstein CRP: 05/36484 Clinical Psychologist & Psychoanalysis